I have on and off been writing a novel set just a little before the outbreak of the 2nd Punic War. So far the main action has taken place in Phthiotic Thebes (the little one). For the social situation I have assumed it to be pretty similar to Athens and I have filled that picture out with what we know of the slave societies of the US south and the British Caribbean.
Women can only leave the house if in the company of a man or in large groups of women. Marriages are forced and wives often suffer abuse. Men if they are dissatisfied with a marriage will purchase a concubine while if the wife takes a lover and is discovered she faces murder. For an adulterous wife to be murdered would technically actually be murder but the chances of the perpetrators facing trial is zero. Slaves have zero protection and the abuse often is sexual.
There are marriages that are happy and slave owners who treat their slaves but that is simply a personal choice on their part and it would not occur to them to criticize friends who do not so act.
Several plot lines depend of this bleak picture so while feel free to criticize it can’t now be changed.
However one of the characters has moved to the other Thebes - the big one in Boeotia. I have taken as the interpretation of the re-founding of Thebes that the bulk of the returnees are the 30000 sold into slavery who were ransomed at the time. (That bit of history I broached in an earlier thread - for this thread lets assume it’s a fact). Given that, I thought it would be interesting to make Boeotian Thebes a total contrast to Phthiotic Thebes. First off there is a genuine attempt to give slaves some protection which in practice doesn’t entirely work but slaves a vastly better off than in Phthiotic Thebes. In the past actual abolition was a serious issue but now after 90 years only a few seriously attempt to keep that flame alive. Those few still advocating abolition are regarded as a bit impractical. (By contrast, in Phthiotic Thebes openly advocating the abolition of slavery is good way to get lynched). Second the experience of abuse that many women would have suffered during the years of slavery has meant that the returnees had developed a horror of rape not as in Phthiotic Thebes simply a hubris suffered by the father or the husband of the woman but one suffered by the woman herself. The idea that the honor of the family is borne by the women would have been untenable when so many of Thebes women were subject to sexual assault under conditions where no effective resistance was possible. Hence honor killings are unknown. A father who discovered his daughter had committed adultery would doubtless disapprove of her actions but he wouldn’t feel the kind of shame that could only be wiped away by murdering her.
So does this sound plausible? I say plausible not probable. As far I know, as we don’t know anything about the internal social conditions of Boeotian Thebes so as this is fiction I feel free to make them up but not beyond the limits of what is possible.