Ah, here we go: of course, we do NOT need to define pain. We are all experts in the correct application of the concept of pain, and there is no reason to pretend otherwise only because we are thinking about it.<br /><br />Think of episodes of which you could truthfully say "this is a case of being in pain"!<br /><br />For instance: some of us have experienced how it is to wake up from our sleep BECAUSE we have a pain. Keesa's mother might be of little comfort in these cases. But don't we all know that we can get rid of minor pains be falling asleep?! Of course, and the pain is GONE then. But you can be in pain while asleep: think of cases where an sleeping person is moaning in pain. People with fevers, too, have been found to be in pain. But, GENERALLY, a sleeping person is not in a current state of felt pain. Here is another way that Keesa's mom wouldn't be a satisfactory advisor: it is of no help to try to fall asleep while you rest your hand in an open flame. (I also believe that Keesa's mom wouldn't give the advice in such a situtation).<br /><br />So, what is all this about. I think we can without much hesitation claim that to have a pain, you have to feel it, and that feeling something is a way of being aware of something.<br /><br />I believe, however, that Keesa and others may have been tricked by the word "awareness." Being aware of something comes in degrees, just like pain itself, and is not an on/off issue. There are many things I am aware of right now, or at any time. However, there are very few things that I am focussing on at any give time, and very few things that I am being aware of being aware of (this I do even fewer times, it's actually somewhat of an intentional effort).<br /><br />There are things you are aware of in your sleep (certainly when dreaming). Or while feverish. One can slowly BECOME aware of something, for instance when waking up. One can slowly loose awareness. <br /><br />To be aware of something is not the same as focussing on that something, let alone being aware of one's being aware of that something. I can, as I often do, focus on something entirely different but still be aware of my headache. Usually, that makes the headache more bearable than focussing on the headache. I am, in those cases, still in pain, but to a lesser degree; in those cases, I am still aware of the pain, but only lesser so.<br /><br />I am not sure that I understand what emotional pain is -- pains are sensations that we have, emotions are somewhat quirky and elusive somethings (no quite sensations, not quite thoughts, to be distinguished from moods), but calling something "emotional pain" (or is it rather "painful emotion"?)is just marking certain emotions as negative, as opposed to positive emotions. Love is probably considered positive by most and often thought of as an emotion (but this is certainly not without doubt); if negative, isn't it more the aspect of jealousy, abandonment, refusal, disappointment and similar episodes that presuppose a relationship with or expectation from another person like love? Or is there something else <br /><br />We have, I admit, a derivative use of the term "pain" as in "She is pained by the death of her only daughter." I believe, however, that these uses are derivative because we have better ways of expressing the same thought ("She is distressed", "She is inconsolable", "She is deeply sad and without a will to continue her life"...). We don't have that in the case of an occurring pain like, e.g., a headache.<br /><br />In the movie "Lawrence of Arabia", Lawrence extinguishes a burning match between his fingers without the slighest show of even the slightest pain. When his colleague in the basement room in Cairo asks "What's the trick?", Lawrence's reply is this: "The trick is not to mind."<br /><br />These are my first thoughts on this issue. In my view, the trick is to focus on "awareness."<br /><br />BTW: Keesa's last question is different from the original one and I would think it's an empirical one. In my experience(!), for what it's worth, the answers are "Yes" to the first and "No" to the last.