Agrippa wrote:Um I'm assuming that the rolleyes is some sort of arrogant zinger and I commend you on your masterful use of emoticons in showing off to someone on an internet forum, but I still don't know. Common sense says Illud but I need certainty.
brilliant!

fierywrath ain't learned yet how distasteful and crude sarcasm is (there's a big difference between good-natured irony and malicious sarcasm; perhaps one day that will impress itself on fierywrath).
Try:
uxor eius suiscum amicis ibi stabat et id/illud (or ea/illa) cum patientia faciebat
patientia goes after cum; only when you have an adjective too can you put the adjective in front of the (monosyllabic) preposition, the noun comes after (in prose):
magna cum patientia or cum patientia; not *patientia cum
'suiscum' is because you can attach pronouns to 'cum'.
Don't worry about referring back to the action. That's another problem with grammarspeak: when you first start out, you start confusing everything and having adjectives modify verbs etc. At least I did, and I think almost anyone does, just that most don't wanna admit it. Anyway it's just a stage; it goes away (then you see how little grammarspeak is actually good for).
So:
His wife was standing there with her friends;
She did it/that [whatever 'it' or 'that' is; could be the washing of clothes, shooting her husband with a bow and arrow, etc] with patience.
'with patience'=patiently; ablative of Manner = adverb. This is what is meant by 'ablative of manner': whenever you have an ablative noun modifying the verb directly, i.e., functioning as an adverb, it's an abl. of manner. That was incredibly repetitive.