Qimmik wrote:The Herodotus passage is from the story of Gyges, isn't it? Candaules got what he deserved--he should never have done that to his wife. This is one of the stories that makes Herodotus so entertaining!
I don't imagine that you literally mean to say that what Herodotos describes in itself deserved death. However, of the three he is the one who clearly sets thing in motion and has no one to blame by himself.
The story reminds me of the case of Beatrice Cenci who was imprisoned by her father and repeatedly raped and beaten by him until in the end she murdered him. The options open to an upper class Roman woman of the late 16th century were so few that her choice was narrowed down to suffer on in silence or murder. In that sense she was in the same position as Queen for whom any action against Candules short of the palace coup she engineered. The very fact that Candules held all the cards meant that if his wife should resist at all she would have to strike back in the most extreme way possible.
Women of Athens had a similar lack of power and lack of redress and I rather suspect that Heroditos included that story because he knew it would produce a thrill of horror in his audience.